Heavens, it is a private server you know. They have limited resources and never imagined the hype and swarms of people wanting to play.
They are out of their depth and instead of just closing up shop, because really who needs thousands of whiny nerds expecting you to satisfy them, they are trying.
If it is so terrible go play somewhere else, I'm sure we will have more than enough people on the realms there for fun without all the drama.